Is That All There is?

Is that all there is?
If that’s all there is, my friends,
then let’s keep dancing.
Let’s break out the booze and have a ball,

Mike Stoller and Jerry Leiber —

How many of you remember Peggy Lee singing this song in 1969? And how many of us have said or sung that several times throughout our lives? We reach a stage of life I call the “Messy Midlife;” we look around and ask ourselves “Is that all there is?”

So, what do we do with our messy midlife? We change careers, we go back to school, we have an affair and/or get a divorce, we buy a sports car, we bleach our hair, we do everything we can to bring back a sense of newness to our lives. We feel like our lives are half over and what do we have to show for it? Is this all there is?

If you’ve had these thoughts, you’re in good company. Is “midlife crisis” a myth or is it real? To those going through it, it’s very real. You’ve had a good life, but now something seems to be missing. Some of our activities can end up being very positive, depending on how and why we carry them out.

Going back to school can work at any age. Changing careers can bring a new purpose to your life. You are never too old to do or be what you’ve always wanted to do or be! Don’t sit at home and moan about getting older. Not everyone will be granted that privilege.

Some of you took an online course I created – “Growing Older with Gusto!” (https://lavalily.com/learn-with-lucy/) That course is being updated and will be available again soon. As I inch toward my ninetieth birthday, I may have a few words to help guide you into your older years.

In late spring of this year, I will offer a new course called “Gusto Through a Messy Midlife!” Watch for the announcement on my website or get the free app (Learn with Lucy) from either Apple or Google and sign up for announcements.

A hui hou!

****The song was inspired by Thomas Mann’s short story, “Disillusionment.” The song was written by Mike Stoller and Jerry Leiber, and arranged by Randy Newman. The photo is one I took at the Colosseum in Rome, Italy.

A Typical Hawai`ian Winter

I first wrote about this in 2009 soon after I started writing my blog. It’s one of my favorite times of year here in Hawai`i, in what we call “winter.” The roads are lined with dazzling displays of poinsettias.

The highway I drive regularly is narrow and curving with almost no place to pull over, but I managed to get a few pictures. Some of the photos are a bit hazy, so there must have been some vog the day I took these (look up “vog”). Please enjoy these pictures that show a few of our winter scenes.

Yes, there is a difference between summer and winter here. Even in Florida, Southern California, and Arizona (all states where I have lived in the past), there is a distinct change between the temperatures in July and those in January.

Here, there is no noticeable change in temperature from month to month all year. From late November until mid-March, however, there is a change in what blooms along the roadsides and in our gardens.

Some places have huge embankments of poinsettias (Euphorbia pulcherrima). “Pulcherrima” means “very beautiful,” and it is. There is no way to compare these with the little pots of poinsettias you might purchase in a local store.

Against our rich green forests, the brilliant reds are almost florescent. Then throughout March, I look for those little drops of red in the midst of jungle growth that keep hanging on. When they are all gone, I know that winter is over!

Poinsettias flow over onto the ground and almost seem to take over everything else. My first experience with poinsettias took place back in the early 70s when I decided to take some courses in the ornamental horticulture department of California Polytechnic Institute in San Luis Obispo.

We made a field trip to visit the Paul Ecke Ranch in Encinitas, CA where over 70% of the poinsettias in the United States and over 50% worldwide actually begin their life. There were acres of greenhouses filled with poinsettia cuttings in all varieties and stages of growth. Please follow the link above to view the history of that ranch as well as the history of poinsettias in general.

I love the way they intermingle with the yellow hibiscus. Such a dazzling display of color!

This is a sight few of you will see at Christmas.

Many of the poinsettias have found their way into the wild tangles of growth alongside our roads.

Others are a featured part of a home’s entryway.

You can see why I’m obsessed with taking just the right pictures to illustrate this stunning plant.

Poinsettias are originally from Mexico and named for Joel Roberts Poinsett, the first United States Ambassador to Mexico in the 1920s.  During his stay in Mexico he wandered the countryside looking for new plant species.

In 1828 he found a beautiful shrub with large red flowers growing next to a road. He took cuttings from the plant and brought them back to his greenhouse in South Carolina. The rest, as they say, “is history.”

When I lived in Southern California, I remember how people would plant the small potted plants they bought at Christmas time. Many of their homes had nice stands of poinsettias, but they rarely reached the size of the ones here.

If you are interested in what to do with your Christmas poinsettia plant, look online to read about it. You will find good sites on how to choose and care for your poinsettia, and what to do with it at the end

I empathize with those of you who are suffering under ice storms and record-breaking snowstorms. I have lived in Alaska, Illinois, and Rhode Island, so I know what you are experiencing. But I could never go back to it, now that I’ve lived in Paradise for close to 30 years!

Whether you are celebrating Hanukah, Christmas, Winter Solstice, Yule, Saturnalia, Kwanzaa, or any other festival at this time of year, poinsettias are a celebration in themselves!

Mele Kalikimaka
[Merry Christmas in Hawai`ian]

IT’S TIME TO JOIN ME!

I am gradually moving some of my online activity to my app “Learn with Lucy.”

Please download the app (it’s free on either Google or Apple!). Register with the app right away, then check in regularly for anything new. Check out

On the app, you will find information about:

  • the courses I’m offering,
  • new blog posts,
  • books I’m reading,
  • recommended articles,
  • and much more.

Those who are registered with the app will get priority information right at your fingertips without having to find my website on your computer. Most of us have our cell phones handy all the time, anyway. To learn about my logo and more about the app, check out my post from November 13, 2023.

I’m still learning from the developer just how much the app can do, so we’ll be learning some of the new stuff together. I invite you to recommend this app to others who might be interested in more learning opportunities.

If you are looking for a life coach or mentor, please email me for more information at the address listed below.

Lucy learnwithlucy@myyahoo.com

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. (Lao Tzu)

My First Book Giveaway

I have acquired and kept, given away, lost, or donated thousands of books. As I head into my ninth decade of life, I am reminded that my books cannot follow me wherever I go in life – or death. Therefore, I need to get rid of them today while I can still decide where they are to go.

My goal is to give away as many books as I possibly can to people who want them. As the first step, I will write a brief review of one or more books on this blog at least once a month (maybe more often if I get around to it). If you read about a book you want, let me know, and I will send it to you, free of charge.

Word of warning: Some of these books either have yellow highlighting, underlining, or notes in the margin. Others will look like new, and you’ll wonder if I ever read them, but I have read every book I own. Whether or not you see markings has no bearing on what I thought of the book.

You have one month from the date I post the information to request the book. After that, it will go into a box for donations to a thrift shop.

The first book I will give you is Chi Walking by Danny and Katherine Dreyer. We learn to walk early in life, then perhaps we get away from it when life got too busy to walk for leisure. I was a walker for many years and even a runner at one point. Then after back surgery, I ended up with some nerve damage in my left leg, so I now use a walker to get around, still with chi.

What is chi? It’s your life force, and the authors say, “With chi flowing in your life, your energy expands and grows rather than spiraling downward like water whirlpooling down a drain.” It is my personal hope that by walking with chi, my leg will improve. Would you like to own this book?

REMINDER: For information on being mentored by me, please see my blog of November 26, 2023  https://lavalily.com/2023/11/26/guess-what/  Beginning in 2024, I will offer individual and private mentoring in four one-hour sessions on how to “Grow Older with Gusto!” at any stage of life.

If you want to learn more about this opportunity, comment on that post with your email, and I will respond. Your email will not be posted for the public to see. We can discuss your options, or if you live near Kailua-Kona, HI, perhaps we can meet over a cuppa to make plans.

A hui hou!

GUESS WHAT??

It’s nothing new! We are growing older from the day we are born!

We are always growing older:

  • Babies grow into toddlers
  • Toddlers grow into teens
  • Teens grow into adults

On and on it goes until we finally are growing into our 60s or 70s or older. In the fall of 2024, I’ll be growing into my 90s – then my 100s a decade later, and life is still exciting to me. Who knows how many more decades I’ll get to grow into?

In “Learn with Lucy,” my featured course offering is “Growing Older with Gusto!” It was originally created to discuss how to head into our older years with gusto. That has become an “evergreeen” course, which means the course is available all the time and you can start whenever you wish. Check my website https://lavalily.com/learn-with-lucy/ for more information.

What’s the next step in your journey? What do you look forward to – or fear? We are never too old or too young to discuss our lives with someone who has been there and can help us through the trickiness of each decade.

Are you wondering about:

  • college and a future career?
  • changing careers?
  • retirement?
  • marriage or staying single?
  • parenthood or not?
  • moving far away?
  • your messy midlife?

Beginning in 2024, I will offer individual and private mentoring in four one-hour sessions on how to “Grow Older with Gusto!” at any stage of your life.

If you want to learn more about this opportunity, comment on this post with your email, and I will respond. Your email will not be posted for the public to see. We can discuss your options – or if you live near Kailua-Kona, HI, perhaps we can meet over a cuppa to make plans.

Every day, I aim for the GUSTO! – and so can you!

A hui hou!

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